The World is Chaotic—Stay Calm Anyway | Marcus Aurelius

Everywhere you turn there's chaos—politics thrives on outrage, social media fuels division, and fear is the currency of the day. But this isn’t new.

Imagine being Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor facing war, political betrayal, and a devastating plague. His world was crumbling, yet he remained steady. How? By mastering the art of resilience, choosing wisdom over outrage, and cultivating inner peace in the midst of external chaos.

In this episode of the Cultivating Civility podcast, I break down five powerful lessons from Book IX of Marcus Aurelius' Meditations—lessons that can help you stay calm and focused, no matter how turbulent the world becomes.

• Why injustice harms the doer more than the victim
• When to teach, when to tolerate, and when to walk away
• How to protect your peace—even when everything feels out of control
• The power of gratitude, even in difficult times
• How to avoid distractions and stay committed to your purpose

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by negativity, this episode is for you. Tune in and learn how to cultivate clarity, resilience, and unshakable calm—because the world is chaotic, but you don’t have to be.

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Transcript

Welcome to the Cultivating Civility podcast, where we tackle toxicity and build a culture of respect, one episode at a time. I’m Diane Kalen-Sukra, your host, Save Your City author and Kalen Academy founder and today’s Civility Dispatch is a call to steady leadership in turbulent times.

Let’s be honest—life feels more chaotic than ever. Politics thrives on outrage. Social media rewards division. The news fuels fear. And everywhere you turn, someone is ready to fight. It’s exhausting.

But guess what? Chaos isn’t new.

Let’s rewind to the second century. Imagine you’re Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius. Your empire is at war. Corrupt leaders surround you. The public is restless. A plague is tearing through your cities, killing millions. Your own people doubt you.

Now tell me—how do you respond?

Do you lash out? Sink into despair? Rage against the unfairness of it all?

Marcus Aurelius didn’t. He chose wisdom over outrage. Self-discipline over reactivity. Inner peace over external chaos. And that’s why his words still matter today.

His Meditations are a masterclass in resilience. So today, let’s break down five lessons from just one section, Book IX (which you can listen to for free in a short 1/2 hour by following this link). These lessons can help us stay steady in a world addicted to outrage.

1. Injustice Hurts the Doer More Than the Victim

"He who acts unjustly acts against himself."

People who lie, cheat, or manipulate others? They’re the real losers. They damage their own character, erode trust, and poison their own minds. When we understand this, we stop wasting energy on resentment. Let their actions speak for themselves. Stay focused on what you can control.

2. Teach When You Can, Tolerate When You Must

"If thou art able, correct by teaching those who do wrong; but if thou canst not, remember that indulgence is given to thee for this purpose."

Not everyone is ready to learn. Some people are committed to ignorance, pettiness, or self-destruction. Fighting every battle is a waste of energy. Teach when possible. Walk away when necessary. Your peace is worth protecting.

3. Your Mind Determines Your Peace

"Today I have got out of all trouble—or rather, I have cast out all trouble, for it was not outside, but within, in my opinions."

Marcus understood something most people never will—our reactions shape our reality. The world can be in flames, but your mind doesn’t have to be. You have control over your peace. No one else does.

4. Find Gratitude in the Smallest Victories

"Be content if the smallest thing goes well."

Look, some days are just hard. But a Stoic doesn’t wait for big wins to feel satisfied. Even in a storm, there’s something to appreciate. A kind word. A quiet moment. A breath of fresh air. Gratitude is a power move.

5. Don’t Let External Chaos Distract You from Your Purpose

"Do not waste what remains of your life in speculation about others... It will keep you from doing anything useful."

Drama. Gossip. Political theater. Social media rants. It’s all designed to steal your attention. Marcus urges us to rise above it. Focus on what actually matters—your work, your growth, your integrity. Ignore the noise.

Why This Matters Now

We live in a time where negativity spreads faster than wisdom. Where outrage is profitable. Where fear dominates conversations. But Marcus Aurelius shows us another way. A better way.

Civic leaders, public servants, engaged citizens—listen up. The world needs steady hands. We don’t need more rage, more division, or more reactionary leadership. We need calm. Clarity. Strength. And that starts with you.

So, stay steady. Stay wise. Stay focused on what matters.

And if you want to go deeper, Meditations is now available for free in my Civic Wisdom audio library on the Kalen Academy Youtube channel at @kalenacademy. Take a listen. Absorb this wisdom.

Because the world is chaotic.

But you don’t have to be.

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